Years ago, I watched this movie where the lead actor said,”You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” It was from the movie We Bought a Zoo.
Granted, it was the lead actor’s advice to his son about talking to a girl, but this could be used for so many areas of life. If we give ourselves just twenty seconds to try something different, to try something that will better our lives, something great might come of it.
Fear stands in our way of doing things that are better. We get caught up in the same responses, the same thought patterns, and the same old ways. We don’t think that if it isn’t working, then we should try something new.
I’m big on trying the opposite. It has made a huge difference in my life. When my child who has ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder starts reacting badly to discipline, that my other two children who don’t have those issues responded well to, I tried something different, the opposite. I was calm, spoke softly, and looked past his reaction to see what was truly bothering him. He was usually overwhelmed. He needed me to walk him through things to make it easier for him to comply with my demands. He wasn’t trying to disobey. He was overwhelmed.
When we have arguments with our loved ones, we often have them about the same things. We argue using the same words. We react in the same way. What if we stop all that same old, same old and try something different? What if we were calm and asked what is going on with our loved one? We might finally see something totally unexpected. Usually, we feel like we aren’t being heard or totally understood. Our loved ones usually feel the same.
Try twenty seconds of insane courage, and see the greatness that may come of it.