We’ve all had negative encounters with people. Sometimes, they are strangers. Sometimes, they are family members that have grated on us for years. These negative encounters can throw us for a loop. We get caught up in our victim stories that we tell ourselves. We think about how this person always does this, or we think about how this stranger is just like all the others. We get angry or frustrated. We wish we didn’t have to deal with these people. We wish that they would go away.
We need to embrace these people and realize they are put in our lives to learn. They are a lesson that hasn’t been learned yet, and that is why they are irritating you so much. These irritations are lessons that we haven’t learned the proper skills to yet. Once you learn those skills, they no longer irritate you. At the least, they no longer throw you for a loop.
How do you deal with these people?
That is really hard to answer because there are so many solutions, and it is customized just for you. What lessons you need to learn aren’t always what someone else needs to learn. I know that doesn’t help, but that is a fact.
A few things that might help you are: One, realize that mostly like how you were raised caused this frustration. If you look in your history, you will see maybe a parent has this irritation with these same types of people. Maybe even one of their parents has this irritation. It’s a skill that your generation hasn’t learned how to deal with yet. Second, find the core reason of your issue. Then, seek out knowledge anywhere you can to solve it. There are so many resources out there that can help you. Third, it is usually pretty simple. You know they aren’t being fair, and they don’t truly understand you. They don’t care enough about you to stop hurting you. If these people aren’t there to be supportive, then you don’t need them. If they have to be in your life, limit your exposure. If they are co-workers, find another job, or find a way to distance yourself. Realize you don’t have to let them affect your life.
These negative experiences will always be there, but they don’t have to be curses. They can be blessings for you to learn from.