I have had several experiences with journaling. At first, it may feel uncomfortable because you should be writing down everything that’s private, the stuff you never let anyone know. We can give our deepest thoughts voice. We right them out and we don’t stuff them down.
Stuffing down our feelings or thoughts makes them bubble up somewhere else and usually not in a positive way.
Have you ever got mad at someone and lashed out and it wasn’t even directed toward the person that did it in the first place?
Most of us have. We yell at our kids because our boss embarrassed us. We eat junk food because it’s the only thing we feel we have control over. We throw things because we don’t know how to voice our hurt.
Journaling helps us to see what is really bothering us, that’s if you write without fear and without censoring yourself. Just write. It clears out all the negativity, and sometimes, once it’s out on paper or in a computer file, the anger or frustration doesn’t feel as big. It doesn’t feel overwhelming.
Journaling will lead you to see what’s really bothering you, which will help you learn to articulate that to the proper person. You will learn that when your boss calls you out in front of others, you know it’s because he’s shaming you. You might already know that information, but journaling will give you strength to go to your boss or someone else in the company that will give you guidance and explain to him that behaviors is unacceptable and that you deserve better treatment.
Journaling can teach you what’s really bothering you. That is good because now you have information that will help you move forward instead of being stuck in the situation. You get to the core of the issue.
When journaling, I suggest to just write whatever comes to mind and not to censor yourself during that time. Once you’ve got out a chunk of that, ask why is that important/matter to you. Begin to write again. Once you’ve written that out, ask it again. Eventually, you’ll get to the heart of the matter.